Life essays and social notes

Prioritizing you own happiness and peace is imperative even if that comes at the cost of being “rude” to others.

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I fundamentally believe in seeing the good in everyone. And deploying empathy is a big part of it.

But the ‘see-good-in-everyone’ tip isn’t exactly universal or objective.

Someone treats you badly. You see good in them. They treat you badly again. You see good in them still…

This is WRONG.

You’ll find ways to survive the hole and claw your way out faster. Your side hustle will become a reality sooner.

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I can’t recall who said it. Maybe Tim Ferris. Maybe Naval Ravikant. Idk, but the idea of working at a job you hate is interesting if you have bigger aspirations to do something on your own or to do something bigger outside what you’re currently doing.

Last year, a comfortable/boring…

Hello, Medium Shortform. Oh, how I loved you even you didn’t exist. Of course, people will complain about you in their 700-word “long” stories. Yes, some call ‘700 words’ long. They’ll complain despite the fact that they are free to publish long-form stories. Let them. Stay here. I’ve been a big fan all this while; even when everyone was blindly rallying behind longer-content; even when everyone would synonymize short-form content as poor quality; even when they would pack their 100-word ideas and opinions in 2,000-word articles. I am glad you’re here. Medium’s engineers may try to f#ck things up and remove you but I do hope you stay.

I pay them. I am the reason how they feed their family. I give them the money so they can afford to live a life. I control what they do 9 hours of the day. I can cut back their pay by pulling some idiotic company policy that nobody cared to read. I can demand them to work even when they are sick. I can be a di%k to them when they are performing badly. I can be an unappreciative, egotistical bi%ch when they do some good work. I can demand them to work extra hours, forget their family affairs, skip their meals. So, I basically own every one of my employees. Call it modern-day corporate slavery. It doesn’t matter. I pay them. And they must value that and obey every insecurity-driven tantrum I spill.

Yours humbly, per LinkedIn bio, a visionary leader.

Be nice. This is more important today than ever.

You’re not their ex. Why do you ghost the applicants then?

Your company talks about ethics and values… Help us understand how ethical is it to leave an applicant hanging with “we’ll get back to you” when you know you’re not hiring that person?

Oh, by the way, why do…

It’s much easier and realistic.

“We don’t remember the days, we remember the moments.”

If you recall your past, you won’t really remember the days. The moments are your memories. Your past is defined by little and big, sad and happy, strong and feeble moments.

In that context, when we get up in the morning…

Asif Ali

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